I want a divorce.........i think??

ok 2gether for 17rs, 2 kids..heres the problem..thru-out our relationship there has been physical and verbal abuse. I am not allowed to wear tight clothes, make-up, show and now not allowed to hang out with my best friend. Recently we decided to call it quits, i have been sleeping on the couch for over a month. He decides to put a tape recorder in my car cuz he thinks im cheating(I nvr cheat) and heard me talkin to my bff about him. i admit i said some hurtful things but i am also hurting and i needed to vent. well he is upset that my bff and him grew up on the same street together, but other than being "neighbors" thats the only thing they now of each other not to mention a 10yr age difference. well he feels that since he knew her first that i should not be friends with her and i shouldnt tell her our personal biznezz. now he says in order for this to work i must stop being her friend and he does not want to go to counseling & folo hiz rules. i want out..ur opinion plz..